The reason why most relationships don’t last long is that because most couples are just lovers but they’re not friends. That the relationship they got engaged in was based only on physical attraction, lust if you want to be brutal. It’s like they rushed into a relationship with only their physical admiration for each other not knowing everything that makes a relationship going. So when the physical attraction wore off, nothing hold them back together and the tendency is for them to break up. So just like everyone else is saying, it is better if a couple was not just lovers, but friends as well. So while looking for that someone you wanna give your heart with, you’ll not just going to find a girlfriend/boyfriend in their being, you’re also looking for a bestfriend. It’s not just about hitting two birds in one stone, it’s your heart and your happiness that’s at stake here.
"It’s the worst feeling in the world to love and hate someone all at the same time. and it’s hard to watch things change when all you want is for them to stay the same. It’s crazy when you want to let go, but you keep holding on, and you want to move on, but you’re stuck right where you started. When feelings come and go and you can’t decide what you want. When you have so many things to say, but you don’t know where to start. When you want them in your life so bad, but all you can do is push them farther and farther away. It’s so hard to think back to how things used to be and look at it now and realize that things are different, and they may never be the same. You tell yourself it’s not worth it, but if it really didn’t matter, you wouldn’t spend so much time thinking about it."
why do I seek the attention of strangers? Why do I feel obligated to perform at my best at all times? It feels almost ridiculous every time I take a step back and think about it. What are the things in my life that hold me down? The things that make sure my ego doesn’t go super nova. I thought long and hard and couldn’t find a single thing that does anything to that effect. So, I’m sitting there like a dumb ass, trying to figure out how I’ve always kept my ego in check.. Then it hits me, an epiphany more pertinent than sliced bread’s conception, I don’t have anything to hold me down because there is no real ego, at least nothing significant. See, this is the tip of my subconscious iceberg. Sure, I’m not mentally unstable, and if you push me too hard I won’t snap and try to break you, but yo… I’m going to be real with all you strangers that will read this. I have almost no confidence in anything, I constantly look for approval from peers and strangers, and I have more insecurities than I can count on my fingers. I bury and hide all these things behind a mask of aloofness, superficially, I’m chill and real. I say things the way I see them, and I act like nothing phases me. I don’t know if this is how normal humans feel in this desensitized society. But it’s a dog eat dog eat shit world out there.